Women….women…women.. Part 4 “DICKS”

{Writers note:This is my fourth entry in a blog series that will end only when I have nothing more to contribute. I don’t know when that will be…I mean I truly don’t…but I intend for it to be truthful…as truthful as I have ever known things to be in my own experiences. Names will be withheld in some case but they will not be replaced. That sort of bullshit screws of my writing flow.}

“When it comes to SEX, there is nothing like a man who knows what he’s doing'” -Women

“When it comes to a JOB there’s nothing like an experienced worker” -Potential Boss.

(Notice the similarities? Do yah see the irony tho?????)
Women love a man who can put it down. For most women if a man can make them cum then that’s half the battle. And it IS a battle.
They call it the “battle of the sexes”, but its really the “battle of Dick vs Pussy”


“Which can give the most pleasure????”
The stakes of this battle are nothing less than world domination.
And for many years, pussy has ruled the world…ONLY because men aren’t on their game.

As a card carrying NERD, I was a virgin for a long time…I pride myself on that fact because during that time I chose to learn everything I could in regards to females. I read a lot of Redbook, cosmopolitan, Essence magazine, the encyclopedia (vaginal anatomy) and a few other books. Pornography helped a lot as well….usually for jerking off…BUT it showed me where I would need to put my dick at when the time came. (super important for that awkward first time.)

Speaking of which, my first time was memorable for a few reasons

1.She was a Jehovah’s witness
(Never thought I would see THAT shit. If I knew they were selling “door to door pussy” I woulda let more of em’ inside my house)

2. My parents were in the next room and I had NO lock on my door at ALL. So the “living between life and death” scenario was ultra exciting and unforgettable for me.

3. She thought I wasn’t a virgin because I was so good.

So here I was blowing a woman’s mind and body with only a marginal idea of what I was PHYSICALLY doing. So the next time, we had sex, I made sure to explore…ahhhh fuck it why lie? I used her as PRACTICE for subsequent women 🙂 But those are the things you do with your “first”.

My point of the last paragraph is that I CARED enough to WANT to get BETTER. Here is the problem with men,  women have spots that NEED attention. The spots are outside and INSIDE and most men just dont take the time to find them. Women know this problem quite well while many men seem to ignore it. “Men just seem to want to get theirs”

The sad truth of the matter is that the average man doesn’t work to perfect his sex game.

Don’t believe me?

Ladies have you ever noticed when you’re with your girlfriends and past sexual encounters come up and there is usually ONE to THREE dicks that were better than the other TEN? THAT is the average my friends. And it’s usually two dicks and not three. I was being nice. So you see why women walk away from many sexual encounters pissed because the guy didn’t have the tool or the skills…leaving the woman to do herself later on…reminiscing about the good dick she had before this new loser. Women complain about this shit so much that EVERY MONTH you can find a magazine with something like “Drive her WILD” on the cover. Most editors of magazines are WOMEN, even the MEN magazines have women editors, the job of the editor is to have the final say on what goes in the magazine and what doesn’t. Don’t you see??? THEY ARE TRYING TO HELP MEN BY SENDING BLATANT INSTRUCTIONS !!

Or am I being a conspiracy theorist? I don’t think so.

As a man, I feel bad for women when it comes to finding a good sex partner. I mean don’t get me wrong, I’ve had some WHACK ladies in the bedroom, but I’m a man…we can find someway to get our shit off even if she acts like a cold fish in the bed. As long as she is lazy enough to stay in a position we put her in, a man can get off. So yes, a dick can turn a lemon into lemonade.

But women are more complex. They need more attention. As far as I’m concerned EVERY woman should cum EVERY TIME she has sex with her lover. If not, then you’re just going through the motions. Sure it feels good, but there’s a big payoff you’re cheating yourself out of. As a man, its our duty to get a woman to cum….hell….even wet the bed…fuck it…have her shaking in the bed.

(and YES she is going to be blowing up your phone after this and she may turn into a crazy broad…BUT you did your job. You made her HAPPY and satisfied her sexually. Pat yourself on the back dude.)

Here is the scary shit: women are multi orgasmic,  men cum only once. If I could cum multiple times in rapid succession like a woman, I would PROBABLY have more gray hairs on my beard than I do now…hell I would probably be dead at 45. But women are built to handle this amazing ability. Realize this: if men were on their game..sexually…DICKS would win the battle. NO I don’t want dicks to rule the world (though I’m SURE a lot of Chelsea residents would dig THAT ) but it would be a step in the right direction if I heard women complain less about sexual dissatisfaction.

The right dick has the ability to blow a woman’s mind. Yet they are hard to find because of selfish dudes. Women are so frustrated, DILDOS have been a money maker for years. And the things these dildos can do are just amazing!! (I cant compete with a spinning dick head and “pearls” WTF??)  But no matter what these fake penises can do, they are STILL in the shape of a dick. Which means that if a woman could just find the right dick, this dildo would be collecting dust. Because every woman knows there’s nothing like the real thing. Even most lesbian couples use a fake dick of some sort (DON’T get me started on THAT hypocrisy. I mean you either like dick or you don’t…what the fuck?)

I would like to add something…personal.
Now I’ve never had complaints about the size of my dick. Not once. But I’m an avid watcher of porn, so I know what a big dick is…you guys out there with these MONSTERS?  YOU ASSHOLES are some of the WORST OFFENDERS when it comes to not satisfying women!! And it used to boggle my MIND, how god blessed you with the tools and you don’t use them to their utmost 😦
But women once again, have schooled me on the problem..
Guys with monster dicks NEVER have to WORK.
For them, once they put their dicks in, it’s usually so shocking for a woman that the woman doesn’t know if she is feeling major pleasure or major pain…its just right there in the middle. Meanwhile the dude just keeps pounding dick in her. (If you’re a woman and this is turning you on then you need to calm down dammit. I’m trying to run a blog here:)  A guy like this goes through his share of women and he hears the yells and screams of pain and pleasure and feels that he just needs to keep doing what he’s been doing. His game never rises.
Meanwhile a guy who isn’t a monster, with a nice size has a COMPLETELY different life. We could POSSIBLY hear “you ain’t shit“, so that FEAR makes us try to find a woman’s spot every chance we get. We have to WORK for our money dammit!
Sometimes we run into a woman who tells us during conversation that she likes big dicks…what are WE are nice size dudes gonna do when its time to get down? We gotta do the job with the tools we have. When it comes to penis size it is quality over quantity. EVERY woman I’ve spoken to has agreed. So to you big dick monsters out there? I just want y’all to know that I’ve ran into a few of your ladies and….I BEAT YAH!!! Hard work pays off suckers!!

IDEALLY, I think that women should be down to TEACH a dude if he has the tools and if he is a decent guy. I mean I KNOW the lack of experience is a turnoff, but you learn by doing, so teach him how to DO you. Personally I’m tired of women REQUIRING an experienced guy. I mean if a woman sucks dick REALLY good, how the hell do you think she got that way?  Is she a HO or is she simply experienced?  So the way I see it, teaching a decent person, who happens to be well endowed, is a good situation. You guys can explore together.
LOOK, I know the last thing a woman or  a man wants to do is to settle…But this is life, YOU tell ME a situation where we get 100 percent of your desire and I will tell you that you got LUCKY AS HELL. Because normally you take the good with the bad, weigh that, and make a decision if you’re gonna go forward or not.

Chances are there is this decent guy, nice looking, who likes you, but you put him in the friend zone because he is missing that EXPERIENCE or SWAGGER and he could not only have the tools, but he would be willing to use his tool on you and only you.
Monster dicks aren’t exclusive. Guys with big dicks KNOW they have big dicks because EVERY woman has told them. They have slayed many women and will slay more 🙂

Good size dicks can be all you need sexually and if attached to the right guy, could allow you to let go enough to have maybe the best lovemaking you’ve ever had. Sure you’ll be whipped afterwards 🙂 but you’ll be whipped with the right MAN and not a DICK.

There’s plenty of dicks out there ladies….I aint bullshittin’ when I say “It’s your call when it comes to who you let inside of you.”


Women…women…..women… Part 3 “She hate me”

{Writers note: This is my third entry in a blog series that will end only when I have nothing more to contribute. I don’t know when that will be…I mean I truly don’t…but I intend for it to be truthful…as truthful as I have ever known things to be in my own experiences. Names will be withheld in some case but they will not be replaced. That sort of bullshit screws of my writing flow.}

“Sometimes being a bitch is the only thing a woman has left to hold onto”  Delores Claiborne.

Always loved that line..it spoke to me..don’t ask me why. I love movies 🙂

There’s stages to every breakup and you gotta go through em. If it was a deep relationship, and you guys ended on rather shitty terms, then you both COULD walk away seeing the worst of each other. Sometimes an argument, other times just finding yourself alone noticing how quiet the place is after they’re gone

Now THAT is an AWFUL SOLITUDE.. Man I know about that shit. It comes from allowing people to leave as opposed to standing in front of the door.

But  exactly what do you do?

You’re torn between “not keeping someone who doesn’t want to be kept” and “I love you, please don’t go, we can work this out” You sorta feel that the person should KNOW what they have in you, and if they do and they are still willing to leave YOU then WHY exactly should you fight to keep them?

Why INDEED.   Message right there.

Sometimes you can even like someone so much, that they don’t like YOU anymore.

In my opinion you’re LUCKY if you get the argument, at least you’re angry enough to not care for an hour or two 🙂

Since these blog posts are my personal experiences jotted for all to see…I’m thinking of the women I’ve known or lost and the lessons I’ve learned along the way. Today I find myself thinking about BITCHES…the thing many women turn into after a messy break up. There was a time when I couldn’t understand WHY a woman would be that way…that’s no longer the case.
Let’s go back..

When the subject of bitches is on the table my daughter’s mother comes to mind…I mean she turned into full bitch mode once I broke up with her. For years she spoke nasty toward me (unless she needed some money or dick) and kept me from seeing my daughter any chance she got. In the end, all that “bitch shit” stopped and I even got custody of my daughter….

So what exactly was “bitch mode” for? In this case, it was vengeance.

Even when I would part ways amicably with a woman, I ran into bitch mode.  And when I thought that maybe the one who loved you the most would be the worst bitch later on…I was shown how wrong I was by another woman. So there’s no real rule for bitch mode.

My questions to myself were ” how do you do it?”  I mean unless someone did some terrible shit to you, “how do you hate someone you used to love?”  “How could you be so mean to someone IF you guys parted on cool terms?”

Is your anger over the break up itself or what was lost due to it? Some women I’ve seen hate that they ever loved a particular man in the first place. So when they break up they go full bitch mode.
Some women hate the fact that despite how cool a guy was to them, he just wasn’t that into him and that makes a woman feel like LESS… it really fucks with their self esteem…so she turns into a bitch toward him. Other women still love you, but they hate that you didn’t love them enough to stay despite their craziness…so instead of looking at themselves, they blame you, so you get bitch mode(but these women will still make love to you if you want to. Its actually pretty intense lovemaking as i recall 🙂

Very complicated beings are women. But men can be spiteful as well. VERY spiteful.

But the thing is, its all a stage…and you gotta go through it. But keep in mind that the guy you HATED may turn out to be a better friend than the enemy you made him out to be. And perhaps you two broke up because you didn’t know enough about each other in the first place.

And who knows? Maybe you guys will get back together because you’re both fucked up enough for each other and no one else 🙂 I’ve seen it happen.

Nowadays i no longer question a woman turning to bitch mode. I’ve settled into a reason i believe with all my heart. I believe the MAIN reason a woman turns into a bitch is because they let a man IN,  And it DIDN’T work out for whatever reason. You invest your heart, time and secrets INTO someone else and they seem to TAKE these things with them when they are gone. If I were a woman….and I REALLY think about this a LOT…how do you move on to another man after having shared passion and experiences with someone before?

I mean look, I’m a guy, a man is physically, chemically, designed to be able to have multiple women. But THAT doesn’t mean we don’t FEEL pain and loneliness.
A woman? all they seem to DO is feel emotion, so it has to be 100 times worse…so I just don’t know how y’all do it. Its NOT the same way we do it because a woman can’t just have men inside her and then leaving her. Every man inside of you TAKES something when he leaves.

You can’t get that shit back.

You THINK you can. ..But you CAN’T. Because every man is different, every experience with another man is unique whether its great or shitty.

I thought of these things…and completely understood WHY and HOW a woman can go into bitch mode.
Because women love hard. And if you cut a woman deep enough you  bring the WORST out of her…out of a human being.
Its a pain that no one has an instructional manual for. And a woman doesn’t know how to react , except by going ultra defensive.

Trippy shit.

Sooner or later, you forgive, or you DO move on and find someone else…or the same person from before….

But that bitch is always under the surface..waiting…..it may not be fair to the next man…but its a demon WE (both) gotta come to terms with.


Women……Women… Women.. Part 7 “Only YOU can save YOUrself” AKA: “This needs to be said..”

{Writers note:This is my seventh entry in a blog series that will end only when I have nothing more to contribute. I don’t know when that will be…I mean I truly don’t…but I intend for it to be truthful…as truthful as I have ever known things to be in my own experiences. Names will be withheld in some case but they will not be replaced. That sort of bullshit screws of my writing flow. I AM however taking a break after this one, but i will return with the ninth entry}

” All men care about is pussy. They don’t care about how they treat us”

MAYBE some men are life’s way of telling you that it is YOU who should care about yourself 🙂

Men get a bad rap with their penchant for wanting to have sex with numerous women. The reality is, its something we are genetically supposed to do. Men are designed to have an URGE  procreate. In the law of nature, every man should get a woman pregnant every time he has sex with her. BUT as human beings with common sense above nature (sometimes) we use condoms and or “pull out” before we cum.  Women can’t understand a man’s sexual urge, simply because they don’t have a set of balls and a dick. Women have NO IDEA what it feels like when a man is horny, regardless of that fact, women always lament about how men just want sex.

Life is full of ups an downs, ebbs and flows..how we are one day, will not be how we are a week from now. Men change just like women (men just take years, while women change up on you every month!) So take heart women, there will be a point in every mans life where he is ready to chill with a wifey. The problem is that women want this to happen a LOT faster than its biologically possible for a man. In this mans opinion, most men aren’t ready for a relationship until they are in their late 40’s. I’m dead serious. late 40’s isn’t old at all, but it IS old if you’re a woman looking for a family.

There are some decent men out there that are a bit younger but you have to find them…or if the gods are kind, they will find you…but you have to be ready to spot them or receive them. You have to be of the proper mindset.

And a LOT of women just aren’t ready for the man of their dreams.

Let’s say you just dealt with a loser. You guys have history, been with him for a number of years and all but you’re done now. Like most women, you take some time to regroup and heal mentally. You don’t have a taste for sex for a little bit. This is all part of the recovery process from being SAD. That’s OK and more women should admit that fact to themselves. Loser or not, you are sad it ended the way it did or sad that you let it last as long as it did.

So time goes on..let’s say 3 months tops. If you’re a normal woman, you are kinda tired of the sexual hiatus. So you go out on a date and like what you see and hear from a guy…aannnnnnd…
70 percent of women have sex within 3 months of knowing a NEW guy. (And that’s only ONE poll! Others show it to be higher) and yall KNOW that within three months means within 6 weeks  goddammit!!
You spent 3 months healing and LESS than three months before you had sex again.
Now, you COULD say “I waited 3 months”  (haw haw) and I would say “that’s cool. Hope you took the time to learn some thangs about yourself and the last dude” but if a brand new guy can get the ass within 3 months, I don’t think you learned too much.

Or maybe PAIN isn’t what it used to be for women. I mean it CAN’T be any different because women still make people like Steve Harvey and Michael Baisden RICH.

Women STILL want to figure out men.

Allow me to retort women: MEN are SIMPLE. Women should devote MORE time to figuring out their  OWN COMPLEX ASSES! 🙂

And the only way for a woman to do that is to look at herself. Seriously…look at YOURSELF.
Look here, You can go out into this world and fake out EVERY person you come in contact with..but when you’re home and you look in that mirror, you better recognize the real. Because if you can’t..then you are a lost soul. And lost souls get led astray or consumed by stronger ones.
Hope y’all feel me on that.

Are you ready to receive a decent man? I mean are you at the point where you can ADD to HIS life? Or are you some woman who is just going to need help all the time? Everyone needs help sometime, but ALL the time, and with the same problem? No decent man wants to get involved with that. Decent men usually want decent women. An UPGRADE over the women they usually run into. Are you ready to add to a mans life? Or do you need HELP with your own numerous problems?

Are you a woman who says she needs love, respect, attention, care, understanding, passion, security among other things???

Yet you find yourself fucking someone who only gives you two of those things at MOST? Then you aren’t ready for someone decent.

UNLESS you just don’t know any better than the losers or men who have hit it and only call when they want to fuck you…you have no real excuse as a woman to continue to deal with men like that.
Supposedly, when you have had a LOVE just ONE time, its supposed to change you and your outlook for the rest of your life. Because you know its out there, you know what it is, you remember what it felt like and anything LESS is WORTHLESS. But if you simply have no patience..or just need some dick during a dry spell…then who am I to judge you? No one can.
But I seem to recall many women wanting MORE than that little bit of dick ( or chunk of dick..depending on penis size) so are you ready for love? Or are you happy getting dick on occasion and doing you? Because if you complain about finding a good man one minute and the next minute go get fucked, then you need to get off the confusion train and get on the REAL train.

Ladies, its not that MEN will TAKE what they want. ANYONE, man or woman, will take what you are willing to give for free. (Its human nature to like free stuff!)

However many women give up parts of themselves that should be worth so much to them. The reason many women do this is basically because they don’t realize how precious they are. Many women suffer from low self esteem, they just don’t admit it, but their actions show it in every way : Downing themselves, thinking everyone is staring at a a flaw on them, doubting themselves in every little decision,not just important ones…these are TURNOFFS to a decent man. Because just like a woman, a man LOVES CONFIDENCE. A decent man loves a secure lady. You don’t have to be rich or successful, you can be an everyday woman and be a great catch.

I’m going to use this example, mainly because its hard to find a woman without kids nowadays 🙂 AND Ive experience on both sides of the spectrum in this situation:  if you’re a woman with kids who finds a way to make it work even though you have little help, that is IMPRESSIVE. A man looks at that and thinks that this woman is super. It isn’t easy being a mom, but to be a mom and hold down a job or biz of any sort is super duper. It makes a man WANT to help you out any way he can, because you didn’t ask him to.
And if you’re a secure woman, secure within HERSELF.. you won’t look at his help like a handout or pity gesture.
There are many single mothers out there…are you secure within yourself?
Or are you waiting for someone to help you? Your children are YOUR children. Chances are they have a father somewhere. It IS true that you and your baby or babies are a package deal for any man…but he should NEVER have to to feel like he MUST be responsible for your kids… A real decent man will TAKE the responsibility. Willingly.

That’s how my dad was with me 🙂 so I know.

Its not easy being a single woman..LOOKING for companionship, while sex is around every corner… but the problem is LOOKING for it. I may not know everyone on earth but EVERY person i know who LOOKED for love? found themselves with someone they were just putting up with. They just all settled because they just got tired of waiting. The HARDEST thing to understand and accept about good things are that they come from no where. Sometimes you put yourself in a situation to get good things but that isn’t a guarantee of getting anything. If a bad person can be found in church, a supposed sanctuary, then there really isn’t any “good place” to find a good man or woman.

Which means its just luck and being at the right place.

OR you can do what i did…dont look at all. fuck it. work on yourself. And one day a person comes along who feels that you’re worth the headache 🙂 Ive had good women and i just turned them down…but the fact remains they are good women and they are out there. So are good men. But how are you going to keep the Right man when you aren’t Right within? And also, if you’re a god fearing church going woman, then I’m sure you know and believe that “God helps those who help themselves”.. even GOD himself WANTS you to help YOUrself, so exactly what in the HELL are you looking for a MAN to help you with?? 

Come on now!

I believe that the reason i attracted decent women is because i made no apologies for who i was, but i was the FIRST person to admit i have faults and i KNEW my faults. Some things i was willing to change, while other things it just didn’t feel like changing 🙂 but that’s ME and that’s who i am. Decent people are attracted to honesty, because its the character of a decent person. I CAN say “I’M SORRY” and mean it. Because there are parts of me that aren’t perfect and can hurt people who don’t deserve it. However you DON’T want to keep having to apologize. You gotta either FIX that shit about you or stay away from people you will end up hurting. (FUCKING MESSAGE!!!)

In the end, it all boils down to looking in the goddamned mirror. Not an actual mirror, but  turning your minds eye inward to look at your own mind and maybe even cry a bit…touching your soul. Its okay. Chances are that you need this..in order to endure and be closer to happiness, you have to do it at some point and when you do, you wont worry about someone else completing you, because you will be fine with yourself….and when you are TRULY fine with yourself…and i mean TRULY and not ACTING…someone will find you.

Maybe its the radiance an enlightened person has..

Maybe its the fact that you no longer care and are happy within yourself..

Or maybe its that life rule that says “What you try to grab the most, slips through your fingers”.

But what i say works, as long as you are true to yourself. Get RIGHT with who you are…don’t worry about no one else…get right with who you are and don’t stop until you are happy with who you are. YOU are TOO important to fail yourself.


Women of the world, you have my undying love. I mean that. To my Mom, thank you for dreaming of me giving birth to me. I’m here woman 🙂 Thank you DAD!!


Women…..women….women…. Part 2 “If actions can be fake too, then what the hell????”

{Writers note:This is my second entry in a blog series that will end only when I have nothing more to contribute. I don’t know when that will be…I mean I truly don’t…but I intend for it to be truthful…as truthful as I have ever known things to be in my own experiences. Names will be withheld in some case but they will not be replaced. That sort of bullshit screws of my writing flow.}


You’ve met this cool guy…handsome, nice teeth, can put together a sentence…etc. He asks you out on a date and you accept. The date is cool, I mean he says and does all the right things…then it dawns on you : another ex, who just happens to be an asshole, was the same way before he got what he wanted.

How can you tell if a guy is the person he claims to be?

Its isn’t easy….I mean it REALLY isn’t easy…mainly because many women tend to want to forget the mistakes they made.

Silly thinking.

Don’t you realize that making mistakes is how we got here as a human race?

So even though you don’t want to be a “Bag Lady” (a woman with a mental Rolodex of every man who fucked and left her. Thus affecting her mind to the point of paranoia)  you should ABSOLUTELY review your mistakes..and believe me..it HURTS.

However, the knowledge gained will be worth all the pain in the doing 🙂

Say you always seem to attract bad guys. Shouldn’t you be the AUTHORITY on what a bad guy looks like? The reason you’re not is because you don’t take the time to think about the last asshole you had..and the one before that and so on. If you did that then there are certain signs you would know for the future.

You are supposed to go through pain/mistakes in life in order to GAIN knowledge. If you erase the mistakes or act like they never happened then you cheat yourself. You end up being dumber because of that. As a man, I know that nine times out of ten, a woman who deals with bad boys or DICKS is someone who tends to like certain qualities that each one of those men possessed. It could be great body,bad boy swagger, a quick temper…different signs that a woman like that is into. The minute that woman EVOLVES AWAY from letting those things be the end all be all, then she will be on the way to getting a decent guy.

Some women don’t want a decent guy though..I just want to put that out there. I know 2 women who LIKE dogs, because there is no commitment. Usually these are some cold-hearted women (Well not TRULY. They just have a soft spot for a tiny percentage of men..like 1percent of men. Borderline lesbo)

So when the question of “how can I tell if a guy is just trying to fuck me?” Is asked to me, the above explanation is what they get and then I ask them what do THEY think the signs are. If they have no idea, even though they have dated many losers..I know I’m dealing with someone who needs to look within and face those past dudes.

But I will give a lady a couple of tips…I mean if women get better than so do men because they would have to step up their game..and the world itself changes maybe for the better.

Unique men give unique conversation. They don’t tend to toot their own horn, but what they WILL do is give you VERY different convo than what you’re used to. If you are with a man who talks about material things that he has or wants, or that he wants to give you, then in MY opinion, dude is buttering you up.

(Just thought about a bagel..gonna use this post to remind myself: get bagels from the store. Be sure to erase this and DON’T forget like last time!)-writers note: D’OH!

Be wary though: the strong silent type is no good either.
Sex should not come into the convo and many men throw out feelers. Its too early for that. He should want to know YOU, not how your pussy is doing.
Bottom line is that convo should be equal and INTERESTING. He should be interested in you and vice versa but you guys should talk abut subjects that don’t lead to the bedroom. A conversation gives you a chance to LEARN a new human being who COULD be around for a long time. Why not talk about some IMPORTANT subjects? Really see who you’re dealing with. I ALWAYS like to talk about world subjects. Even if the person doesnt know what’s going on in china, then see if they at least have an opinion or thought about things outside their own little world. If you yourself are not worldly, ask about a difficult situation you know about or maybe one of your own and see what he thinks. And don’t accept that “I don’t have an opinion cuz I don’t know about it” everyone has an opinion, if he is afraid to speak it, then he may be too worried about turning you off, which isn’t good because you should want him to be who he is for real. Not some guy putting on his best face to keep from angering you.

Do NOT be a woman who tells a man how to get in. This is Sooooooooooooooo text book and every woman falls into the trap. The problem is that women want the date to work WHEN they are out with a guy they are physically attracted to. So a woman will tell him all her likes and dislikes and turn ons and offs…as a man, all I gotta do is take notes..you are telling me how to get the ass. Its not the guy’s fault..its your own..because you want this guy to be the one SO bad.
Aren’t you WORTH the time? But if you have no patience..then you will never get shit.
I’ve been on TONS of dates and women just can’t help themselves if they find you attractive…it saddens me in all honesty. We could talk about ANYTHING…and you chose to give me the 40 minute “this is ME” speech. Never realizing that if you cut that speech to just 15 minutes and break that 15 minutes up into little pieces during convo about OTHER things, you would be tons more interesting to guys.

Speaking of patience..lack of sex can get you caught too. The answer is “the fuck buddy” . I educated a couple of The ladies on my facebook group about this.

This is a guy who is cool as hell, but he doesn’t want anything more than sex from you. And YOU know that he will NEVER be more than sex to you. You can have a history with this guy or maybe just have fucked him a few times and liked it. Bottom line is you know that in a pinch, he can get you off and not make you feel like shit afterwards.
As long as you have this buddy, then you can go out on dates and not have to FEEL like THIS HAS TO WORK. Because when you don’t get any sex for a while, you will jump on somebody that you shouldn’t have jumped on. So the fuck buddy keeps a date honest and fun. With no preconceived notions. NEVER go on a date horny.
You will give it up to a LOSER.

Observe. Always. Watch his eyes when he talks..his hands..listen to how he speaks.. all are very important. A REAL man is not intimidated by a strong woman. I myself have always dug when a woman asked me a ton of questions on a date..its cool cuz I’m an open book and it usually opens the door for great convo which is what a date should be predicated on in my opinion. You date to SOCIALIZE. NOT to find a man. Stop being on the goddamn hunt all the time. Learn to ENJOY someones company. IF its enjoyable:)

When you come into a situation/conversation with ultimatums of “well I need this from a man” “I’m not getting younger and tired of wasting my time” all a man does is sees that you have no patience and if he does what you tell him..he will get to fuck you…and when he is done or bored with fucking you, he will DUMP your ass just like the last dude…because he got what he wanted.

Was that real talk too real? I Was channeling my mom for a second 🙂


The cell phone. Unless he has kids, the phone should be on special ring or vibrate. From decent man to player, any man should know that on a date its about the two of you. its your special time. Even if you’re already boyfriend and girlfriend, that phone should not be a distraction. if it is, then if you allow him into your life, you will learn to hate that phone and be more than a little curious as to why it always rings. i may have dated a lot of women, but my phone was never ringing off the hook. because the ones i KEPT in my phone were not CRAZY women who called me at all hours. You can tell a lot about a man by the company he keeps and the women he is into.

That’s my main things off the top of my head…man talk to woman. But none of it means shit if you don’t do it. Just understand that. TRY it. See where it gets you. Dating can be so INTERESTING..no one said you have to even think about anything else but the date. But so many women want what they want so bad, that they lose out and wind up losing a bit of themselves dealing with loser after loser.

We all make mistakes..its okay..please learn from them…
And get a “Fuck Buddy”!!



Women…women…women.. Part 1 “At least I didn’t bullshit you”

{Writers note:This is my first entry in a blog series that will end only when I have nothing more to contribute. I don’t know when that will be…I mean I truly don’t…but I intend for it to be truthful…as truthful as I have ever known things to be in my own experiences. Names will be withheld in some case but they will not be replaced. That sort of bullshit screws of my writing flow.}

I think a lot of who we are comes from our parents. I think its the singular reason they are called “role models”. A father, is the first example of a MAN that young girl has. While a mother is the first example of a WOMAN for a young boy.

I like to consider myself a simple guy…seriously… its the way my mother is. She doesn’t need much. A good day for her is not dying in her sleep, having a good cup of tea and taking a good shit.
I’m the same way.

My mother is also one of the REALEST (not a word) people you will ever meet. Brutally truthful but never a “truth brutalist” (one who beats another over the head with truth. Who destroys you with it. No mercy)

I am the same way.

As a man, I would like to speak about how being a truthful person has affected my relationships with women.

I used to work at a club in Brooklyn. Working at a club allows you to observe what works and what doesn’t when it comes to the art of conversation. Every Friday and Saturday night I got a chance to hear some truly LAME and tired-assed lines from men trying to get pussy. At first, it was pretty entertaining because you’re watching the beginning of a situation….maybe even a long term situation(usually not)
However, as time went on, I started getting disgusted by it for ONE reason: women were falling for what I knew to be bullshit. And why was it bullshit? Because a lot of men were club regulars. Every week they would try to bag a different woman. I remember one situation where the guy came with his chick and left her on one side of the club, just to talk to a new chick on the other side of the club. You think that’s pretty daring don’t you? Its really not. Your steady is naturally going to stay where you left her. She trusts you, she is loyal…because she likes you.
To USE that trust for your own benefit is not daring at all…..its just some common shit bullshitters do to decent people.

After seeing that, I was done. I started just coming to work to do my job..no need for further observation. Many men are bullshitters and women listen to it. That’s what I walked away with.
The problem is I CARED.
So not one to bullshit myself, I vowed that no matter what, the GAME I ran on women would be TRUTH. From top to bottom..how pretty I thought you looked, how long I was watching you, even how nervous I was to approach you…all truth and never the same thing twice because every woman made me feel different.
And you know what? It worked. A LOT. I found that there were quite a few women who appreciated honesty and even though those special women didn’t notice it, THEY gave me HOPE when it came to women. Because I really thought women just wanted to be lied to. I had seen bullshit lines work too many times to think other wise.

Nothing is ever ALL good, and this entry is no different.

The truth is thatI have lost a few good women being honest.
Women I love.

Its kind of trippy when I think about it..trippy and sad as all hell. see, if you’re someone a woman cares about, she is going to want to go further with you. Its natural when you feel you’ve found someone who you vibe with..someone who GETS you like no one else. What has to hurt is when that person doesn’t want to go further. For WHATEVER reason.
Five women come to mind. All shall remain nameless but each one knows exactly who they are because we are all still friends and they know how I feel about them.

As I said, these were all good women, but the truth  is that the more I feel that a relationship is forced….or that it HAS to be categorized as something..the less I like it. And that’s ME. Somehow I got my mom’s “HIPPIE” mentality (FREE LOVE!). I’ve always felt that we should love and be with each other as long as we want to. Rules? Need not be spoken about. ANY woman I was with as a steady was the only woman I dealt with. Not because rules were set in place, but because I WANTED to. Because at heart, I’m not greedy and having a stash of women or a phone full of women’s numbers is not something I EVER thought was cool. Any woman I was steady with, I told them the truth if they asked if I were dealing with someone else.
Any steady I had, we hung out and talked all the time. That’s who I am. I enjoy the company of someone I dig.

And its only natural for a woman to love someone who treats her and shows her she is the only one.
You ask “Why can’t you commit?”
Hell, I thought I was!!

But I found women need to know, they need to hear it..no less than a man does…everyone at some point wants to know where they stand.
So me, not one to bullshit a woman..I would tell them who i am. What we have now? Is what it may be for a very long time. I take relationships day by day, I don’t plan for a future because people change.
I’m not a fan of titles…I like to let things be what they are. My actions speak of respect, honor, care, even love…so why ever would you need words from me? Any man can tell you what you want to hear and even act it out…but me? I never spoke on what I would do for you..there was never anything more than being who I am and doing what I do…you either liked it or you didn’t. It was FREE.

I just couldn’t understand why someone would want to rock the boat in all honesty. But women have their reasons… In one case, it was her friends telling her shit, in another case the woman wanted to take things to another level…
In either case, I wasn’t ready.

In EVERY case it seemed that the person I am was good, but not good enough anymore.
See that’s the thing some women don’t realize: men have doubts too. The BEST of us, look at OURSELVES, especially when we keep running into the same situation time and again…just like a woman who seems to always end up with assholes. I looked at myself and saw that I’m a unique person when it comes to relationships. In some ways I’m old school, while in other ways I’m ahead of my time. Case in point: I’ve told women for years that marriage is in the heart, not in the clothes and the ceremony. They didn’t get me THEN, but more women are foregoing marriage NOW. Little by little, but its happening. Women see that marriage holds NO ONE. If a man wants to stay, then he will stay. Ring or no ring. No man should be dragged down the aisle 🙂 he should want to go with a glad heart.
And the truth is, most men aren’t like that, and women, who are affected a LOT by men (and vice-versa) are changing to that tune. More women are progressive and do things for self..my mother was progressive before it became the thing to do. She planned on not having a husband, she just wanted a son and a job and a roof over her head and she was determined to get it….and she GOT that shit. My step dad had to beg her and hound her to be with and marry him. Ironically, my mother and I share that exact mindset and personal experience.

In then end, it wasn’t commitment I was scared of, because I’ve been in enough relationships, I just don’t think you should put the love two people have in some sort of box. Categorize it…define “What this is”…
Its US woman. Why does it have to be more than that? But the truth is, many women need that definition. And I say if the actions don’t show love, then it isn’t what you want and you should bounce. Women had a problem with me because my actions and occasional words showed deep relationship and it WAS TO ME, but they simply wanted more than I could give them. That’s the best way to say it…or understand it.

I’m just a different dude when it comes to relationship dynamics..or maybe I’m fucked up? I don’t think I am, but if you do, you’re entitled.

The FACT that I could have lied to these woman NEVER escapes me when I think about my past.

I mean I HAD them.

And they had ME.

Shit was deep.

It takes a different kind of individual to keep it real when you stand to LOSE someone you really care about. I even did it with my wife.

How I do it? Well, I don’t know how else to be. I love and respect women. I’ve watched them get lied to and subsequently FUCKED OVER tons of times. I’ve got uncles who were some womanizers but those same men taught me a LOT about women.  And women taught me even more. I’m not some nice guy or some shit, I just don’t like to bullshit a woman or man. So that’s how I can do it, even though lying would keep the other person around.

I’m still good friends with the women I’ve had long term relationships with. Those are my past loves. a few have met my mom and everything…again, I show you I care…I suppose its just not enough at some point…
I suppose…

I remember having lunch with an ex and I asked her: why are we still friends after all these years?

She said “you’re honest. And that shit is really hard to find T. “

It made me feel so good to hear that. It didn’t validate the sadness I gave to the women I love…but it made me feel OK about who I am and that is so important.

Another one of my exes told me that she was sorry she gave me an ultimatum (bad idea) because its been downhill ever since. She said she was just listening to her girlfriends at the time ,when in reality, she was just enjoying the ride we were taking together. She realized that we never had stress until she stressed things. Her story didn’t make me happy in the LEAST. I take joy in knowing those I love are in good spaces not bad ones.

Another just broke up with her long time boyfriend. I invited her and her son over to the house with my wife and daughter..break ups are tough shit..tougher if you don’t have someone to talk to who you know cares about you.

Currently…I find myself reminiscing on a lot of things…you do that when you have the time that I do 🙂 but reflection is time well spent as long as you chose not to live in the past…or bring the past to the present.

To the women that I have hurt by being who I am…I should make no apologies for being the man I am..but I cannot help but to feel sorry just the same. Was I best left alone? No. I’m not a terrible person…you can certainly do worse!
But maybe I taught women about what they want. How they want to be treated..how they SHOULD be treated…not just when to leave 😦
I mean its best to have had some REAL shit once in your life, instead of BULL shit. This way if you got back to bullshit then that’s on YOU. No boo hoo’ing to your friends.

I’ve said this so many times: Let me be ME and you be YOU. Why bullshit one another?

Some women got it, but MANY women didn’t.
The women that got it, they are seared in my heart..NEVER forgotten and always reflected on with LOVE and equal PAIN.

The women that didn’t? They probably looking for god.


“Unique Some Body”


My EYES? Singular, unique to me, so I can only assess my own version of reality.

My actions, my OWN, so you can push, pull, FORCE…but I in ANY situation, it is I who CHOSES to move. Again, regardless of the circumstance. Over-stand this.

My VOICE? DEEP…are the words…INSPIRATIONAL is the measure of diction. The WEAK are given strength, the IGNORANT are educated just a little more….the STRONG are assured that they are NOT alone.

If my voice and my words are my legacy, Do NOT edit ME. LET THE WORDS BE SAID.

My HEART…beats…to its own rhythm. It scares me at times. Just when I am used to it, it switches…from slow to fast….fast to slow….my heart….my love…it TOUCHES me, it TEASES me….my heart….I LOVE. (N & M)

My HANDS….are fast, fast to touch, to take….always willing and able to get some dirt in their nails. Unlike many, when I wash MY hands, they look clean to me. My hands have no blood on them…my hands have never begged…my hands owe no one any money or payment of any kind….my hands are unshackled…they are free. When I touch, others feel me….when I pray….clasping my hands together….I feel MYSELF. I Hum to my energy….I feel my pulse….the movement and energy of my own blood. When I touch myself, I feel life…and thus I thank god for another day.

My EARS…oh god…I miss how they used to hear so much…now they hear even less. I’ve abused them by listening to so much NOISE throughout the years. Now I am more selective, instead of noise, I listen to what moves me to another level of thought…no longer do I listen to what simply gets me to the next moment. Suffice to say, I used to hear, I used to listen…now I become ONE with the energy of sound that bathes me.

Now I become one with things higher than myself.

My hearing is refined…and so too is my understanding.

My FEET look good, considering the miles I’ve put on them. A blessing no doubt. I’ve always been one to walk instead of run. The best way to learn where you are is by walking….driving is too fast…walking allows me to feel the ground under my feet.

To the heat of beaches, the pavement of the city….even the paths of sorrow and despair…my feet move. God thank you for my feet.

My BODY as a whole, is not what it was, I heal slower, there are more aches and pains….the infirmities we are cursed with since spitting in the face of god. These same pains allow me to appreciate the pleasure of relaxation. So I relax whenever possible. I love my body, I have taken care of it and gambled with it on many a day…used it to attract and pleasure many a woman….used it to complete many a task…used it to whip many an ass.

What can I say? I’m a natural.

Born to be a unique somebody.

In a world of uniformity, I pride myself on being an anomaly.

A unique somebody.


Mental Freestylin’… “It is what it is..but not what it could be”

To study the mistakes of history means your moves will be smarter presently.
In order to see the FUTURE, one must observe the present

a spirited opponent will have many moves designed to win, where as an opponent lacking spirit will have a limited move set….
a limited IMAGINATION.
… Dreams and nightmares, 2 sides of the same sleeping mind.
as I watch, i see that the majority of people dream of things base…ORDINARY.
Money, safety, stability..
MONEY goes from hand to hand….
there is no such thing as SAFETY unless you cannot be touched…
and there is no true STABILITY on a planet that revolves daily upon its axis.

Where are the fantastic dreamers? where are MY people? Who among us dreams of the FANTASTIC? who sees that the nightmare is this MUNDANE world we have built for ourselves? a world full of such promise from man and deprived of promise by the very same

I am left to observe SQUARES because I do not fit…I am well ROUNDED you see.
I observe weaker people because i am stronger than they are at any given moment. Theirs is Weakness I simply cannot relate to. Although my maturity allows me to understand and sympathize with it.

Observe the present and one begins to see the future take shape…
which is unfortunate since the future is a MUTABLE thing…
A moment among MANY moments..
Understand I should not be able to EVER see the future. Every person “blessed” with prophecy will tell you that it is anything but a blessing.

I am afraid I know the feeling.

I will end this abruptly because there is nothing left but…….HOPE.


My unique thoughts of 9/11/2001…I’m sure you have your own..

They say everyone has a story for 9/11, I mean I guess I have some, but I rather give it to you this way, in a multitude of reflections, only because there was so much…..

I remember the day like it was yesterday, but since I wasn’t far from the site of the attacks, that sort of makes sense. If you happened to be around Rector street, which is where I was (just taking a stroll to be honest. I was going to visit my old job) you got the full impact of everything. Now I wasn’t there when the planes crashed initially. I actually came after the fact, just to see the damage. It was my friend at my old job that called me frantically, telling me that there were bits of body parts in the street. He took pictures of the charred remains…they just looked like meat. Now, Rector street is on the corner of the world trade center and Battery park city (a complex of high-priced apartments) are across the street. The remains of passengers reached Rector street AND battery park city. YEARS later when I was working on an underground cable at Battery Park City, we had to stop work because of human remains.

My friend, the one who called me, I remember him telling me that ANOTHER plane crashed and he asked me what he should do, because he was alone in the store that day. I told him to “get the fuck out of there. One plane is a terrible mistake, 2 planes are an attack” I said exactly that. As for WHY I said it…I just thought about Pearl Harbor, and how it just seemed eerily similar…but I didn’t know about the passengers on the plane.

And THAT separated it from Pearl Harbor right there….

I think about the people jumping to their deaths, and those who tried to climb down the walls of the world trade center, I think of how months before that day, I used to wonder if a man could climb those walls. I only thought about this because there’s this French dude who climbs the tallest buildings he can and he does it free hand, not ropes.


Usually he is arrested the moment he reaches the top 🙂 but I wondered one day if he could climb those walls, because you just had no hand-holds on that building…

I think about how many people were in that building…before that day, me and the boys would hang around the world trade at lunch time, have some food and watch the fine ass ladies come out that building by the TONS 🙂 I remember telling the guys how I couldn’t afford to date those chicks making the 12 bux and hour I was making at my old job. I also thought how I couldn’t even afford the expensive restaurant inside the world trade..i think it was called “windows of the world”… not sure though..

I remember the first attempt to bomb the building, it was a UPS truck with a bomb, but it couldn’t do the job and I REMEMBER telling somebody that there would be another attempt, because unless you catch the people responsible, they will try again. Simply because a determined man does not know how to swallow failure…

Imagine, a human being, exploding in front of you…That’s what some people witnessed.  These people were falling from two of the tallest buildings in the world. I think to myself….what does that even sound like? How in the FUCK do you see that and DEAL? I guess I would have to ask someone from Vietnam…I mean that’s the only person I can think of who could relate..

I remember days after the attack..maybe 2 days later, when the dust…ah man…that crazy dust was in the air..making EVERYTHING just so eerily peaceful. I mean if you knew about the area like I did, it was ALWAYS live. Busy, busy , busy…between the world trade center and Wall street, it was like another Times Square at lunch time.

But not after the attack. I wanted to see the damage for myself, so that day, I braved the chemicals that I knew were in the air, and I walked over to ground zero. You could only get so close, unless you knew somebody. Turns out the military security policeman was someone I knew from my stint in Japan 🙂  and wouldn’t you know it, I got past the cordon and saw the crater.

It was an AWESOME and POWERFUL crater to see. I mean fuck the cleaned up hole you see now, that aint SHIT. That’s just a clean toilet. You had to see the crater to appreciate how awesome those two buildings were….The crater looked like some sort of creature made it…or it was the hole to hell itself..It was the only time during the entire 9/11 occurrence when I exclaimed “my god”..There is not a single camera phone, or camera or video that can show you the immensity and power of that crater. You had to have been there to see it.

I think about the lies….There are many, especially if you want to come up with conspiracy theories. But I like to dwell on the real. And the lie on the top of my list was the government telling people that the air was SAFE. You would have to have been an IDIOT to believe that. I mean if you know ANYTHING about basic building materials, then you would know that any of that stuff is dangerous if it gets in your lungs. But here we were talking about pulverized glass, crystallized fiber glass, carcinogenic smoke MIXED with other known carcinogens, I mean there was still parts of a PLANE in there, the jet fuel alone was dangerous…like I said, you’d have to be an idiot to believe that the air was safe.

BUT you’d have to be a fucking piece of SHIT to LIE  about the air being safe. You would have to be a spineless, worthless, PIECE OF SHIT to declare the air was safe  KNOWING that it wasnt. And years later, I think of how many more people of the general populace would have had life changing respiratory problems if it wasn’t for the fact that fear kept them away from ground zero. years later  the Zadroga act was passed, giving limited health benefits to 9/11 responders, but its too little too late for those who have passed away. bureaucracy before human compassion.

The heroes of 9/11 are simply every fireman and cop who risked their lives..But if there are ANGELS, then they are those who were at ground zero, selflessly lending a hand, helping to gather the remains of those who were killed…even though MOST of them knew that they were going to die. Those people, and they were diverse…those were just ANGELS to me. just God’s best and brightest. And no, I wouldn’t have done it unless I was guaranteed safety. but im no angel 🙂

I remember the sudden patriotism of the country and I observed in my lifetime how nothing galvanized a society like a war…its almost like fucking up an anthill. NOW the ants are pissed and they want to sting you, they don’t even give a fuck about dying..they just want to sting you for fucking up their anthill 🙂 The patriotism turned into anger at one point, Muslims were being attacked here.

I remember  hours later after 9/11 , I went to the small store where I got my breakfast from. The owners were from Yemen and Islamic, I came to the store with four very angry guys and he was TERRIFIED. He looked as though we were going to rip him apart. I mean seriously, he looked just like that. His eyes were open and glazed, as if he was begging us not to kill him. I told him, that its going to be alright, stay calm, the guys here wont do anything to you. He just gave me a very nervous “okay” You have to understand, in HIS country, if the roles were reverse and HE was American, they would have torched his store….and tore him apart. In retrospect, I should have INSISTED on a free sandwich and candy bar. I always thought the candy bars were priced too high..but im not a bully  🙂

My Brooklyn people will remember this…Earlier I spoke about Battery Park city. Well they were always a bunch of arrogant folks who wouldn’t associate with common folk like me…until 9/11. The general feeling was that these attacks could happen again, now that the terrorist see how sensitive a target Manhattan is…Well, the snobs of battery park and most Manhattanites felt that the  black people of Brooklyn weren’t so scary anymore and THAT my friends, is when Brooklyn/bed stuy got the sudden influx of white people. BEFORE 9/11, Brooklyn was off-limits to most Manhattanites and well to do folk. I mean, Brooklyn was just not cool, it was dangerous, it was ghetto (unless of course it was the Brooklyn height area) besides, Brooklyn had no night life. our clubs were black and Latino, not white.  so Manhattanites had no reason to come to Brooklyn even to party. AFTER 9/11, the exorbitant rents of Manhattan…1800 for a one bedroom apartment…came right to Brooklyn. Many whites were priced in and many blacks were priced out. The greedy landlords were doing everything they could to price out elderly people, section 8 people or anyone else that wouldn’t be willing to pay this new rent. Fast forward to NOW, and the fight is still going on. The landlords are on the side of inevitability, they raise their rents every year, one way or another they will get their money and eventually, if your apartment is not rent stabilized (a trend that is near DEATH) you will run into rent you can no longer afford. However, Manhattanites with well-paying jobs have never had a problem paying 1800 dollars a month for rent, as far as their concerned it’s a bargain. The bargain used to be the fact that you’re already in the city and the commute is convenient, now the bargain is there is less chance of a bomb in Brooklyn. ANY price to feel safe. I’ve been a Brooklynite all my life and I gotta tell you…the people on the G-train look a hell of a lot different nowadays.  But in the end, where do you go if you’re priced out of your apartment?I left Brooklyn for that reason, if my rent is this high, I might as well pay a mortgage.. Which is why I own a house……

Over 4000 people died, but in reality, America has killed many people with bombs too. There are Indians who were killed establishing the country, slaves who died building this country….slaves who are still buried not far at all from ground zero..do your reading.. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/African_Burial_Ground_National_Monument

I say this to point out that America is not a country of saints and we have a history as bloody as any other country. We forget that this world we live on IS spherical is shape and what we do on its surface WILL come back to us in the eventual. History does not repeat itself in actuality.. But it does have a tendency to rhyme.

September 11,2001..

Pearl harbor before that..

After both of those … who is to say? But in order to avert something terrible, one has to try to find the source and hopefully fix it. it’s a job too big for one man. So unless we all miraculously come together as a nation and change our ways and show the world that America is changing for the better, then we will always be our worst enemy. Together, as humans and as a nation, we can endure most anything and rebuild. Together we could communicate with one another and be the eyes and ears that the police cannot possibly be. Together, we could communicate with the true followers of Islam to avert problems with the more radical followers of Islam. Together, that’s just the tip of the iceberg..

Divided? Well we live that everyday. and so we are unknown to each other and FEAR surrounds us.

I’ve said my piece.


Reality is the curse of the unimaginative…

Seems like all I ever do is dream, but since I’m a person that likes to create, I suppose  dreams are  indispensable tools 🙂

What I would like to tell people is that in this world of “reality” it becomes harder and harder to dream. This is me speaking from experience. I can’t stress enough how important it is to be able visualize something and actually believe in it enough to make it a reality.

In life there are so many distractions and detractors. I swear it seem that there are more things in the way of a man now than what there ever were before, but if you’re like me, you don’t like to quit. You don’t like to waste a good thought or a good dream.

Anytime I come up with an idea, it gets written down, because dreams can fade, so you have to catch them and put them on paper. Sometimes, they happened so fast you don’t have time to read what you’re writing, but there is plenty of time for that later. What is important is the dream, grabbing onto it as best you can before it becomes nothing.

If its good and you have it all on paper, then always thank God for allowing you to see this vision, for there are lessons in all dreams. Even the most horrific dream has a lesson to be learned. The great writer Stephen King’s stories are mostly fueled from his nightmares and personal phobias, but he usual has a character in every story who is brave despite the terrible things going on in the story (an important lesson of life)

So thank god for every dream.

Once you have a good dream on paper, it is up to you to make it a reality. It is up to you to shape it. The dream can be a poem, that needs to be fixed for spelling errors or it could be the plans for a statue or building that would be magnificent if people could only see it as you do.

Again…it is up to you to shape the dream… To make it manifest.

These rules go for any day-dream or adventure of the so called “over active imagination.” If your mind opens to something new and exciting for you, then write it down.

Every time.

I thank God for the things I have written, because many times I do not see them coming beforehand. Like many dreams, much of my work just happens.

But once I read many of my words, I come to love myself even more than I normally do 🙂 It is not that no one else could have written these words…it is the fact that I wrote them.

To write something of substance and merit, to build something that helps people, to carve a statue admired by thousands, to paint something that makes people think…..Makes you feel so good that sometimes…you think you’re dreaming.

Always remember, God creates, the dEVIL divides and ultimately destroys.

To the youth of the world, I ask that more of you dream and try to create things of positives as well as things that spur thought. Never forget that it is your god given right to create, it is your power to dream.

The next artistic renaissance need not be the work of just one man or woman.

Students….reread the selection, focusing on the words in bold 🙂



Yesterday I thought about the different ways I could look at life. The one I liked the most was this one..

What if life is simply a dream? What if the whole “reincarnation” philosophy was real and the thoughts I have, the places I see in my mind, the people, the conversations, all of these were things I have seen in the previous lives I have had. In this way, the soul of a being would be a sort of floating energy that could not be destroyed by any means and upon the death of its physical vessel, it would simply travel to the next one. Not just a conceived human egg, but a dog, a cat, even an insect.

This life, that we lead, what if it is just another stop…Another dream?

Most deaths end with the eyes of the person being closed.(If one has a natural death that is) When the eyes close, perhaps we in fact sleep, for the final time…

When we wake up….Another life.

Now I will get bugged out for a moment so run away if free thinking scares you..

I have been trying to figure out why some babies die horrible deaths..(Credit the newspapers. You know how the newspaper is just chock-FULL of negative news. Well I just happened to be reading about some terrible shit going on in Africa)

I refuse to believe, that if one is a murderer in life, that there is forgiveness in the afterlife…I don’t believe it at all. Since god is a being that takes creation very seriously, for you to destroy it in any way is perhaps unforgivable.

So I thought, “Maybe, the souls of some of the worst people are brought back as certain babies.”

Think about it this way, if a soul , the essence of all you were, were put into a baby’s body and you wanted nothing but love, food, and water, but you were denied these things and instead, were beaten, stabbed, boiled, hacked to pieces, abused in the worst way humanly possible by someone else…a bad person lets say or your parents

If a child had enough of a mind, I guess it would ask “why is this happening to…me?”

Then it would die.

I can think of no worse fate, no better HELL…than to be continuously being brought back….as a child…just to die. To be born….to have light….. Then to have it taken from you in the most senseless of ways……I believe that would be as good as I could make HELL….were I God.

But….before you think of me as some kind of weirdo…(which I am Thank you) Remember, I’m just trying to make sense of certain things using out of the box thinking.

Remember I started this all off thinking about how I could look at life…So I could try to make sense of it all, the things around me and around the world…

But in dreams…..things that make no sense….the senseless…happens daily…So it is in life….

In dreams…the impossible is possible…So it is in life

And if one is of strong conviction…you can make a dream into whatever you want it to be…

So it is in life….

And …maybe…when we lie down and close our eyes for the final time…We wake up anew…With only the vaguest recollection of the life we had…

All that we can remember are bits and pieces…Exactly like a dream….

In this life.



When you hit “rock bottom”, What EVER will you do??

You wake up, wash, put your clothes on and go to work. You have lunch at 12 or 1pm then work for the remainder of the day. You come home from your commute, find something to eat, watch tv, fall asleep and in the morning it starts all over again.

Habit is a systematic way of living.
It is ripe for change.
Sometimes this change can be good, but often it’s not. What do you do when your habitual way of life is turned upside down?

Adaptation and life go hand in hand. To nature, adaptability is essential for survival. And therein lies the essential life lesson of today.

Adaptation is nature teaching us that there is no sound or fool-proof plan. We MUST be fluid. T.F.

If you read the newspaper everyday, lots of times it’s the same theme: times are hard.
Don’t get caught up in the propaganda, times have ALWAYS been hard. Sure they may have seemed a little bit easier back in the day, but I assure you that a homeless person who has been living on the streets the last ten years doesn’t see much change in his situation. Situations have and will always be relative to the individual.

But just what do you do when you things fail despite your best laid plans?
What do you do when you have nothing?

I like to think that I do my best work when my back is against the wall and I’m not the only one who feels that way. There are tons of comeback stories in human history. And there is no reason why yours cannot be one of them. The age-old saying “‘necessity is the mother of invention”  are some of the truest words ever written.

Making something from nothing takes adaptation, ingenuity, and imagination.
for instance, you’d have to first mentally adapt to the reality that you’ve lost your job, or your house. Then you must have ingenuity in order to make due despite your have-nots. You have to find a way to feed yourself or your family, and put a roof over your families head. You have to think of  anyone who can help you during your situation. Lastly, imagination truly kicks in when you begin to put all the pieces of your life back together. You have to imagine a plausible scenario that will allow you to live comfortably as you once did. You have to have a vision to strive for or you simply live in an unfortunate moment.

Make no mistake, planning is a GOOD thing, one MUST plan. But understand that a plan is a gamble that may or may not happen. It’s a roll of the dice between you and life. Sometimes you roll a seven and get ahead, other times you lose and life takes something from you.

When you feel that you have hit rock bottom, you must look at that rock as a foundation to build all over again. If you are able-bodied and more importantly, mentally FIT, then you have a greater chance to survive and win most any situation life throws at you.

MAN says “If you fail to plan, then you plan to fail”
LIFE says  “If  you fail to adapt, then you plan to die”

A lot of y’all better learn how to make lemonade out these life lemons.